Qualities of a man

If you haven't seen this Ted Talk on how to date online - it's brilliant -- and funny -- and just about the best advice ever

and so

I plan to put it to work -- now I suggest you watch her -- because she has it down to a science

but

I'll sum it up

1)  We're not too picky -- we're not picky enough

The idea is that there needs to be a certain quantity of qualities present to get even a cursory contact  -- and if you spend time talking to those who don't meet that criteria -- you're wasting your time and theirs -- and potentially not talking to/meeting the right people

2)  We're not thoughtful about what we want

Yeah -- I have a list of things I like -- but when I come across someone with whom I have a few similarities-- I forget to look at how important those things are to my future happiness -- Do I really care if they like the movie Fargo? -- most likely not -- but being a good communicator -- that's high on the list.

So - given this -- it's time to think about what I want -- and that's what I'll be blogging about here in the next few days -- and trying to quantify the value of those things --

B

PS -- don't know what the deal is with the guy from yesterday -- we chatted in a friendly way last night via text - and today he's dropped off the planet (shrugs)

we'll see

b