it's nearly midnight and I'm just home from work
just to be clear -- I left the house at 7am
it's been a long day
I did leave work -- and ran some errands -- but got called back just before I picked up Pixie from Nana's
A complaint
She said he asked her out
and won't take no for an answer
and walked with her out to her car one night
he teases her
and
she says she's told him to stop
but
he didn't get the message
so
I brought down the hammer
and made sure HE GOT THE MESSAGE
this is part of what I do
be the big serious scary person
and trust me
I scare the crap out of them when they see me at 10 at night
If she liked him
all of this would be lovely
sweet concern for her
walking her to her car
making sure she was safe
showing interest
joking with her
adorableness
but
just on the other side of adorable
is
ookiness
a man who texts you 10 times a day is a stalker or a sweetheart -- all depending on how you feel about it -- how welcome it is
We need to do a better job
of getting guys to understand
when we're encouraging them
and when we're not
we need to do a better job with our sons
to make it clear
I looked into this poor sap's eyes tonight
and he was just clueless that she was telling him no all this time
(and don't get me wrong - this guy didn't do anything that was really out of line -- he was just -- persistent)
I wish it were easier.
You done the right thing! When one side feels uncomfortable and says no then that is a no and the thing is do and dusted. Good job done
ReplyDeleteHugs ashly xxx
I was a big box retail manager. This type of conversation was my least favorite one to have.
ReplyDeleteit is important to teach our kids that 1. it's okay to say no, and 2. it's okay to be sad about someone saying no, but that no is the end, not the beginning of trying harder for a yes. A hard conversation to be sure. Bravo on you for doing it so well.
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