Is it warm in here?

So that last post created some heat

and I did not mean to create any sort of flaming toward the Dom in question
who btw meant well in the end

but rather to state - that such a thing was unwelcome
that one can suggest
but not order

so

moving on

some update

I have mixed feelings about continuing on with Bennie

Pros
He's a very sweet kind man who cares about me
He's attractive
and he can go all night
awesome cuddles and post-chat

Cons
He likes rough sex more than I do - or he likes rougher sex than I do
I don't enjoy the actual sex as much as everything else leading up to it -- and there's a lot of sex
He texts me a lot - and tip toes into boyfriend territory (which is occupied)
I don't get my sub itch scratched quite enough
I have to bug the crap out of him to get him to use condoms -- which irritates me


I have no interest in hurting Bennie - he's sweet and sexy and fun

But I have decided to try to see D again
who is open to it
and is more Domly
and never ever mistakes what we have for a "relationship"

so expect a chapter about D in the near future

B