Out There

I have a Facebook friend who has slowly but surely come out online as "one of us"

it's been interesting to watch
because there was no announcement
just

more and more talk

I'm not sure if she's a sub or a hedonist or a primal (or any number of other titles that I hear thrown around)

but last night she posted about getting her rope and and maybe even flogged

plain as can be

and

no

I'm not coming out to her because she's a FB friend - -not a real friend
I know her vaguely from high school

and just liking my posts and saying that the hat I made is pretty is not enough to out myself to her

there is no mutually assured destruction here

as society becomes more and more open
I worry less and less about being outed

but that doesn't mean that I want to tell my friends and family the intimate details of my sex life
(um

apparently I only want to tell faceless strangers that on the internet.)

you know
when I started blogging

I felt alone
and isolated

I had all these feelings about being a sub
that made me feel that no one else who was like me existed

and I blogged
and I found sisters and brothers that made me feel less alone

and I wonder
if we really knew
how many people are getting their rope on
being flogged on a Friday night

how shocked those of us who thought we were alone in our closets
would be

to find out that we're really playing a game of Sardines instead of a game of Hide and Seek.